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Tips for Making Your Divorce Less Contentious

Divorce is an unavoidably difficult life transition, but there are ways you can at least avoid making it more contentious than it needs to be. While there will certainly be a lot of turbulence to navigate, there are some steps you can take to reduce the amount of stress you experience throughout the process.

The following are just a few examples of these strategies:

  • Make sure divorce is the best option: Divorce is a drastic measure and one that is utterly final, so you should make sure it is the best option for you moving forward. It is not unusual for family members or friends to push people to get divorced, even in situations in which some of the underlying issues causing tension in your marriage can be resolved. If you are certain divorce is the best option, you can proceed with little doubt that you are making the right choice.
  • Be cordial with your spouse: You and your spouse may be very angry with each other or have a hard time speaking, but it’s important to maintain some mutual respect for one another. The more contention that exists between the two of you, the messier the divorce will be — and the more it will cost you. It can be difficult to take the high road, but it will make for a much smoother divorce if you do.
  • Establish a common goal: Even if you and your spouse agree on very little, trying to establish a common goal for your future can give you something to work toward. It also provides a reason to seek a less-stressful resolution. For example, maintaining a focus on your children as your top priority can prevent you from acting out of self-interest alone.

For the guidance and advice you need when moving forward with a divorce, consult an experienced family law attorney with Jakubowski, Robertson, Maffei, Goldsmith & Tartaglia LLP.